Self-Confidence comes from self-worth. When you know who you are and what you bring to the table, it’s easier to feel confident in any situation. We often gain confidence when we have established a track record of certain achievements through our education or work history. How many women are confident in themselves just by being a woman? This is our greatest fault. We lack confidence in being woman.

What is the value of a woman to society, to herself, to her family, to the planet? What if women became distinct? What if women stopped caring for the gardens, cooking hot meals, healing the sick, making babies! You are a woman, a part of society that the other half cannot live without! How precious and valuable does that make you as a woman!

You are the light to the world, just as the sun is the light to our planet. Our planet has no light of its own, it depends upon the sun for light, for growing things. The world depends upon you as a woman to shed your light upon society, upon the human race. Without you, there would be no happiness, no joy in the world, no flowers, no color.

Realize that you were born a woman and your only responsibility is to be the greatest woman you can be by living your best life. If you live your best life, everything and everyone around you will be nurtured, will grow and flourish!

When you are living your best life, you will automatically hold your head up high and walk with confidence, speak with confidence and present yourself to the world as an empowered woman. You will be a role model for other women and lead the way for young girls to step into womanhood with grace, dignity and honor.

Self-Confidence comes from the inside out. It is displayed in the way you look, speak and respond to life. Lets begin by answering these questions:

LOOK: (What you are wearing or how you look on the outside has nothing to do with self-confidence, it’s how you see yourself that makes the difference)

·        How much energy do I put into worrying about how others see me?  

·        How do I see myself?

·        Is my posture straight when walking, standing, sitting?

·        Is my handshake firm and confident?

·        Do I make eye contact with strangers?

SPEAK: (It’s not so much what you say, it more about “how” you say it that counts)

·        Am I clear when I speak, or do I often stumble or hesitate?

·        If I don’t know something, do I pretend to know anyway?

·        Do I project when I speak, or speak softly?

·        Am I loud and overbearing when I talk?

·        Do I have a need to be “right” all the time?

·        Do I interrupt others to get my point across?

·        Do I speak my truth or say what I think others want to hear?

RESPOND: (It’s not what happens to you in life, it’s how you respond to it that matters most)

·        How do I respond when little things go wrong?

·        How do I respond when big things go wrong?

·        How do I respond when a friend or family member has an urgent need?

·        How do I respond to confrontations or verbal abuse?

·        Do I have a need to “rescue” people?

·        Do I respond to other's needs before tending to my own?

·        Do I let people get away with things in order to keep the peace?

Note the items above that you would like to work on or change in order to feel and express more self-confidence as a woman. Realize that what makes anything good or bad, is how you perceive it to be. So speaking loudly and being what some would consider overbearing, is not a bad thing if this is who you are and you feel confident as a woman with this particular behavior. Never apologize for being yourself. The above questions are simply a guideline for you to become more aware of how you are and how you present yourself to the world. If you realize there are certain patterns that prevent you from feeling fully self-confident about yourself, you can begin to do something about them. Change your thoughts and change your reality.

Life is good - all the time!